A “picopause” is a little loving nudge towards simplicity and serenity.
Do not use email or texts if the message is at all controversial.
Email should be used for sharing non-controversial facts (you asked me for information about this mundane, uncontroversial thing, and here is my answer) and for setting up appointments to discuss anything that is likely to result in a back and forth conversation or an argument, or anything that is likely to hurt a person’s feelings.
Hint: If you find yourself typing “and furthermore”, you need to stop typing, delete everything you wrote, and ask for an appointment to meet up with the person over the phone, in a video call, or in person.
I call these “and furthermore emails”. Avoid writing “and furthermore emails” and you will stop receiving them.